Thursday, January 1, 2009
I NEED HELP PLEASE!!!!
Hey everyone i need your help k....So i like traci and stuff but she keeps bringing up getting married and at first it sounded like a good idea and stuff and i figured i could do that and everything...but i have never been able to see it (you know like imagine it and stuff ya i aint been able to pull that one off) so anyways i decided to pray about it right...and every time i pray if she is the person for me to marry and everything i i get a no you know....so anywho i need help to what to do...oh and she isn't so on board with the Air Force thing at all...but yeah me and her was talkin about it on monday right and by next like tuesday she wants to know whats going on like if i stay with her or break up with her or what...i have gotton some help already one from a good friend he said that as long as i do what i am supposed to go on a mission and stay clean and stuff then it will work out how it is supposed to even if its not the way you want it to and stuff...and then my wonderful brother Andrew (great guy he is) we had a chat and a half about it yesterday and he was sayin how i shouldnt be with somebody that doesnt support me like the Air force thing and maybe i am getting a no is because i am still going on a mission and stuff and because she doesnt support me...lik she is holding me back...and she asked me if she was but i ignored that question...i didn't really think about it until Andrew said something...and then he said that if i dont think there is any chance that me and her will be together again then i shouldn't tell her that it might happen after a mission but i just need major help...im flippin only 18 i dont know what im doin...
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
2 comments:
Just to clarify, I am in no way saying you should let the AF come between someone you truly love. However, at your age I think you have some time to find someone who will support you when it comes to things like the AF in you life. Even the reserve will be a big enough part of your life, you really want someone who will support you, and that part of your life. She may even say she is not happy with it, but will let you do it if you want. That is no good either because eventually when you go off to do your monthly weekend, or other training, or possibly even get deployed she will be upset, and make you feel guilty about it. You should never feel guilty about serving your country, especially if it is something you really want to do. If it is something you want as part of your life, you deserve someone who will not just tolerate it but really support you in that. But like I said, you should focus on your mission and worry about marriage later on, and I promise you will find the right person for you. I hope all this makes sense.
Okay, first of all just slow down! I think both you and Traci are worrying about something that really ought to be down the road a few years. I agree with the friend who said that you need to do what you've planned with your life, keep yourself worthy and do what's right, and things really will fall into place. If that includes Traci, that's great. If not, just know that something better will happen in good time. I think it's fantastic that you are praying about it. It's possible that the "no" you are geting is a "no for now" or it could be that it's a "no, not at all". I think if you just take things a day at a time, it'll all work out eventually. Be open and honest with Traci and let her know that marriage isn't an option right now and you just want to see how things go. You both are still really young and you don't want to get into something that you think you might be ready for and then find out later that you really weren't.
Also, for the record, I don't believe that there it "the one" out there. I really think that there are many people that you can fall deeply in love with and be compatible and happy with for eternity. And I think the Lord has a way of helping things fall into place when we are making righteous decisions so that we can find an eternal companion. To me, that takes some pressure off. Finding "the one" always seemed so impossibly stressful and much like looking for a needle in a haystack. Then what if you found someone you were completely happy with but didn't get married because you just weren't sure if it was "the one". Just let things develop and take it slow. Things will all work out if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing!
Post a Comment